Fandom a gift and a curse.

Fandom a gift and a curse.

Fandom has to be one of the most confusing and anxiety filled things in life. On the one hand, it’s amazing to find something or someone you connect with and follow it through its life; in whatever form that may be. Sometimes its a tv show, sometimes its a movie franchise, a book series, a performer; whatever it is, it brings you joy and its wonderful. On the other hand, there are those moments when your fandom disappoints you or the other people within your fandom begin to make it intolerable. We all know what its like to see your favorite actor, actress, or singer get cuffed and hauled off to jail. You are now stuck between deciding to stand by their side, (they’ve been wrongfully accused!) or bow out gracefully (welp).

The greatest and worst thing about fandom isn’t even the thing you’re a fan of… it’s the people you meet along the way. In the age of social media, I am able to find people all over the world who enjoy the things I do and we can chat via twitter, Facebook, etc. I met one of my dearest friends through the Hawaii Five-0 fandom (Hi @lolacabana) and we both barely watch that show anymore, but are still good friends. We found we had so much more in common besides that 1 show and we’ve formed a forever friendship. I’ve had the opportunity to connect with journalists and script writers, even the celebrities themselves and their extended network. It’s all very positive, unless you are a “crazy” person. The flip side of the great people you meet are the awful people you meet. Those people make being a fan of something unbearable. I’ve left fandoms because of the fans. I stopped watching Hawaii Five-0 basically because the fandom became so obsessed, you couldn’t say a bad word about the show, even if it was a legitimate criticism.

Something for us all to remember, just because I criticize something, doesn’t mean I don’t love it. It means I care enough about it, that I want it to be better. I consider myself somewhat of a tv expert; I am not interested in lazily written stories, writers who can’t let go of a character, plot lines being dragged to infinity, or actors being shoved in my face with their character because “everyone really likes them”. What I want is for you to tell the story you set out to tell. Obviously ratings and box offices play a part and we want our shows to stay on air and our movie franchises to grow.

I have a deep respect for Eric Kripke and the story he told on Supernatural. He expressed in many interviews that the story he set out to tell would last 5 seasons. And it did. The show got renewed for a 6th season and he said, no the story is still ending at 5 and we will tell another story after that. If you are unfamiliar with Supernatural (really?), its the story of the Winchester Brothers; saving people, hunting things, the family business. They hunt supernatural creatures and the first 5 seasons was a story arc about stopping the apocalypse. Lucifer and Archangel Michael have a great battle to put Lucifer back in the cage in the form of human vessels. It was quite well done, with the mythology growing over the course of 5 seasons. I will always appreciate the way that story was told concisely within 5 seasons. That’s something that easily could have been dragged on for years and wasn’t. Kripke left at the end of 5 and Sera Gamble took over. Her tenure on the show is a longer post for another time, but the show as a whole has been great. So great, it’s on its 12th season and heading into its 13th. This fandom has been, for the most part, pretty great. There are some minimal arguments over things but we all can agree that Sam & Dean must be protected at all costs and we will accept nothing else!

Other shows have a reputation for fans that are just vile and disgusting to one another as well as to the creators and actors of the shows. To repeat, when you love something and feel strongly about it, you should express your opinion, but you shouldn’t berate an actress because you don’t like the way her character is written. At the end of the day, you are always welcome to abandon your fandom. Stop watching. I’ve long been a soap opera watcher (General Hospital and Bold and the Beautiful). I have reached a point where there is so much good television to watch, I can no longer justify spending an hour of my day watching garbage writing. It’s pretty awful and even the minuscule moments or episodes that feel like “oh this is great” just cannot justify the rest of the filth going on. And the ratings show, I’m not the only one who feels this way. It’s sad because there is so much potential and rich history to draw from and I can almost understand why fan wars erupt over these shows. You’re talking about something a person has watched for maybe 40 years. They’re INVESTED!

There are other shows that have these fan wars and I just want to say “its not that serious”. But it is. I get it. Particularly shows that draw from source material (looking at you Arrow). When you hear that your favorite book or comic is being adapted for tv or movies, it’s exciting. Yes! I get to see my favorite thing come to life. Sometimes its amazing and perfect (Lord of the Rings) and sometimes its a heaping pile of dog dung (The Hobbit, every Nicholas Sparks book) and sometimes its somewhere in the middle (The Marvel movies do a great job of marrying the comic expectation with their interpretation cinematically). It disappointing when something you love so much is treated so poorly and when you have long histories to draw from, you get upset. Then there are those people who have no connection to the source material and want you to shut the hell up. I hear you. But…. But…

The hard truth is being a fan is the greatest and worst thing EVER! And I love it.



Princess Leia redefined what it meant to be a Princess. No more leaving glass slippers behind, pining after a Prince, or being a prisoner in a tower. No. Leia was a badass. She was the leader of the Rebellion. She stood up for what she believed in and didn’t apologize for it. She chose to do things her way. She had Force power, but never chose to use it. She didn’t need it. And as she matured, she didn’t become anyone’s Queen. Hell I don’t even think she married Han. Wife? Nope. She remained an Organa. Never taking the Skywalker name, she made her own name. She became a fuckin General. The best role model to little girls everywhere. She showed us you can wear a dress and still take out some storm troopers. And you can trade that dress in for boots and a vest. Respected above any man in the Galaxy. Luke is just a “story” to the younguns of the Galaxy, but General Organa is a real life Legend. As was Carrie in real life. She went through so much in her life and she was unapologetically honest about it all. She tried to help others with the same afflictions. She was funny as hell. And not ashamed to be herself. Thank you for you, Carrie. Our Princess. Our General. Carrie is one with the Force. The Force is with Carrie. #RIPCarrieFisher

Sorry, did I accidentally step into 2003?

Sorry, did I accidentally step into 2003?


If I were to rank the Gilmore episodes, the bookends were the best and the middle was ok. Spring and Summer have their moments, but for me, they fell a little flat.

Spring felt like a parade of throwbacks mixed in with very little plot movement. It gives us some funny therapy moments with Lorelai and Emily; particularly a moment when Emily accuses Lorelai of sending her a nasty birthday letter and Lorelai insists it never happened.  We get to experience the full on crazy of Naomi as Rory is trying so hard to make sense of this woman, what she wants and what this book is going to be about. The biggest highlight for me was probably the 30 second cameo of Mr Kim. HE EXISTS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Rory’s still hanging out with Logan and they run into Logan’s Dad. Mitchum manages to make Rory feel small every time she encounters him. He offers to call Conde Nast for her and also reveals that Logan is ENGAGED. Engaged. Logan is engaged. My tolerance for Rory and her bad decision making is waning thin. Rory ends up having to leave Logan’s earlier than she wanted to because the fiance is coming to visit. Rory is awful. Oh and she’s still dating Paul.

There’s a fun Town Meeting scene where Taylor berates Lorelai for The Dragonfly hosting B list actors filming a movie the next town over. Michel will later on complain about this as well. Something about Matthew McConaughy reading the paper and never bagging Jennifer Lawrence. We find out TJ and Liz have accidentally joined a cult. Because of course they did. I have to say, I was glad they didn’t appear on screen. The phone call was enough.

Kirk debuts his 2nd short film at the Black, White, and Red movie theater, which features Lorelai’s house and Lorelai who is not paying attention. During this, Emily calls to invite Luke for dinner. Upon arrival at said dinner, Emily repeatedly mentions that Lorelai wasn’t invited. She takes Luke into Richard’s study and talks to him about making sure he has a will so Lorelai will be provided for when he passes away. She also reveals that Richard left money in a trust for Luke to expand the diner.

Rory and Paris return to Chilton for Alumni day which features an entirely hilarious Paris freak out in the bathroom about her divorce from Doyle and her empty briefcase. Francie walks in for a snark session with Paris where we learn that Paris is an MD, a lawyer, an expert on Neoclassical Architecture, and a dental technician to boot! This whole scene was great, Paris at her best. But it was prompted by a Tristan sighting… which was… weird. So first of all, it wasn’t Chad Michael Murray and if we weren’t bringing Chad back, then why did we bother. Second, I found myself confused as to why Tristan would be invited to a Chilton Alumni event considering he was kicked out and sent to Military School (to go be Lucas Scott on One Tree Hill) sooooo yeah.

The Chilton Headmaster offers Rory a teaching job at the school, even he can see shes floundering in the wind. He mentions that he’s read all of her work in The Atlantic and Slate and so we are once again mildly touching on what Rory does, though I’m still not sure I fully grasp what she’s been doing for a decade. Rory and Paris end up back at Paris’ house, we get a quick scene of Doyle in his t-shirt and jeans, he’s a screenwriter now, a nice nod to Danny Strong’s current profession (He writes and produces Empire). There’s this whole funny gag about not wanting to lose a Nanny because she has to walk up 5 flights of stairs and there’s no elevator. I can’t help but wonder if none of them were wearing heels, this hike up and down the stairs might not be so awful.

After receiving a call from Naomi’s lawyer dissolving the book partnership, Rory calls Logan and asks if his Dad can make that call to Conde Nast and she ends up in a meeting with Jim. He talks about this piece on Lines. People stand in lines all over NYC… what’s the angle on this?  This story seems awful and so obviously other people haven’t wanted it. Rory is desperate and calls Jim later on saying she wants to do the piece. This leads to Lorelai coming down to the city to wander around with Rory while she researches lines. This was such a poorly done part of the episode, I thought. Rory is running all over NYC is a skirt and heels? She sits down on one of the lines and falls asleep, but no one steals the cell phone from her hand. Oh and we had to parade cameos through this. The most annoying being Mae Whitman. The only reason for this is so Lauren Graham can have a scene in which she’s standing next to her 2 tv daughters. I care not. This is Gilmore Girls, not Parenthood (more on that later). At the end of this, Rory returns to the hotel room she’s sharing with Lorelai and proclaims she slept with a Wookie and shes all upset about it. So I have A LOT of problems with this scene. First of all, Lorelai and Rory aren’t snobs, they love quirky stuff and I feel like they would love comic con’s and people dressing up, so Rory being all horrified she hooked up with a dude who was previously wearing a Wookie costume was dumb. Then Rory tells Lorelai about Logan and Lorelai doesn’t even flinch. She says NOTHING about the sitatrion. She isn’t upset that Rory has been lying all this time. She says NOTHING about Rory dating Paul for 2 years while sleeping with Logan on the side. Nothing. Nada. Zilch. It was bizarre and completely out of character. She even tells her that what she’s doing with Logan is “way sluttier than a one night stand”… I… but… what?

This episode gives us a few of the chef cameos, apparently since Sookie left all different celebrity chef’s have been cooking at the Dragonfly for 2 weeks at a time. Rachel Ray makes an appearance talking about Sammies, flailing her arms around distractedly and reminding me why I can’t stand her and why I’m suddenly annoyed shes infiltrating Sookie’s kitchen. Michel is visibly annoyed with Lorelai because she keeps firing the chef’s and Lorelai becomes concerned that Michel is going to leave.

Rory goes to a meeting at SandeeSays, the website that’s been hunting her down to come work for them. She meets with Sandee (the chick from Bunheads… again. This is Gilmore Girls, not Bunheads. I don’t care about these dumb cameos), and she has absolutely nothing prepared. NOTHING. Sandee gets annoyed at her, rightfully so. Whether she wants “Rory Gilmore’s voice” or not, she’s not about to just hand over a job to someone and Rory is pissed. She’s annoyed that Sandee “wasted her time” and I’m looking at her like WHO IS THIS CHICK???? Is she serious? How do you go to a meeting for a potential job and have absolutely nothing to say? No ideas? Nothing? It’s a bit ridiculous. And I can’t help but feel like if Rory was 23 years old and this was the storyline, I could believe it. But 32 year old Rory doesn’t know this simple job search etiquette? And it just made me want to punch her in her face. Of course this is all a plot device that will lead us to Rory having to sit down with Jess while he tells her what her life should be, because heaven forbid Rory ever make a decision on her own. But I’m getting ahead of myself.

Emily quite therapy on Lorelai, but Lorelai stays and doesn’t tell Luke. Luke goes all over town looking at expansion places with Emily, but doesn’t tell Lorelai and a chasm between them begins to form. What I found most interesting in this episode was Lorelai alone with the therapist after Emily attacks her for being nothing more than a roommate with Luke because they aren’t married. Lorelai reflects that she “doesn’t do things like her mother” but that “its was always supposed to be Luke” and we get a little insight into why Luke and Lorelai aren’t married after all this time. There was a lot of flack given to this by reviewers and I just took it that, Lorelai knows marrying Christopher was the wrong decision. She was supposed to marry Luke and she ruins that by marrying Christopher and so I think she won’t allow herself to marry Luke or bring it up because getting married has been tainted. Tainted by Christopher and tainted by Emily. We do get to hear about how Richard died. It was a massive heart attack and his last words were to the nurses, “get away from me. This is not how Richard Gilmore goes down”. Lorelai laments that neither she or her mother got that goodbye moment with him.

About the grief: Lorelai is making the most strides. She’s opening up in therapy and beginning to admit that all she ever really wanted from her father, that “I love you Lorelai, I love you Dad” moment will never come. Emily is stuck in denial mode. She’s moving about, trying to be Richard, do what Richard wants her to do. Rory is painfully Rory. She’s also in denial of her failure and hasn’t quite yet begun to grieve her failing career. She’s pretty angry at the end as she moves back home.